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This episode is all about self-care. If you regularlyto your orbeyond your limits, then you can't miss this episode! In it, I talk about the following points, among others:
- Lack of self-care as a sign of lack of self-worth
- Signs and consequences of taking too little care of yourself
- The importance of being, rather than always doing
- The positive consequences of more self-care
I'm currently in Mallorcapreparingfor the next round of my Gut Happiness online course(https://www.darmglück.com).This week, my team and I are revising the recipes that participants will receive from us and I'm working on my webinar presentation that I'll be giving at the end of the month to introduce the program.
And here my thoughts over the last few days have been revolving around whatdoes it take for someone to be willing to take care of their health in the first place? To take responsibility for how he or she feels every day? And one answer that has come to me is: self-worth. The will to take care of yourself.
When it's always the others' turn first
And in all these preparations, I've also realized for myselfonce again how important it is totake good care of yourself,especially in times when there's a lot to do. For many people, especially women, I have the feeling that self-caresomehowsounds like selfishness. Or likebeing lazy. Or even weakness!
We want everyone else to feel good first. We think love means taking care of others, making sure that the needs of our partner, children, parents, animals and maybe even our customers are met before we take our own turn.<span data-ccp-props="{}">
The essence of man does not lie in doing, it lies in being
Do you perhaps recognize yourself a little in this?I would like to read you a passage from the"Wisdom Cards for Life Decisions" by Colette Baron-Reid.(https://amzn.to/2scxpiK ):
Do you believe that it is your jobsacrifice yourself for others and tirelesslycontinue to functionuntil you can barely think straight?
You have pushed yourself to your limits, worked hard, given all your energy to people and projects. In doing so, you have exhausted yourself and now have no reserves left, neither for others nor for yourself. Don't let your ego continue to drive you to peak performance while your mind and body are in urgent need of rest. Exhaustion is a state that prompts you to pull yourself out of every activity and give yourself a break.
The essence of man does not lie in doing, it lies in being.
I find this passage super fitting for what I see again and again in my Gut Happiness course participants. This urge to do everything perfectly, to take care of others, to put yourself in the background until at some point you can't do it anymore.
The signs of a lack of self-care and its consequences
The signs are sometimes difficult for us to recognize because our ego makes us believe that we are strong, that we can handle everything and that wecan ignorethe quiet voice whispering tous that it might all be a bit much. We then say to ourselves: "Just until thelittle one is out of the house." Or: "Just until I get my pay rise. Just until the house is finished."Blah,blah,blah. Because as soon as that's done, we remember what else we need to take care of until we have time for ourselves.
And that's the misconception. We think we can take care of ourselves when we have time. But we never have the time. And at some point, our bodies force us to take this time.
Many define success as getting as much done as possible, achieving a lot, doing a lot. But at what cost?
Exhaustion, burnout, illness, pain, Weight gain, loss of relationships, the need to numb yourself, loss of joie de vivre, apathy...
Since when does success mean how much you have achieved? When did you decide that your self-worth depended on getting as much done as possible?
When you start to change your identity, your BEING, to put your health and well-being first, things will automatically fall into place. You will achieve more by doing less.
The positive consequences of more self-care
The thing is: if you take care of yourself, if you are well, then you will feel better, have more energy, have a more positive outlook and this in turn will be reflected in those around you.
It simply takes courage and self-love or self-worth to say: "Stop. Now it's my turn. I'm going to take care of my health and well-being with just as much vigor as I did before, chasing after success or my so-called duties."
Are youready to make this commitment to yourself? Without compromise? Only you can take care of your health!
I met a shaman some time ago. He said:"I can't eat for you." Let that sink in. Nobody can save you, only you can save yourself.
That's why self-care has nothingto dowith selfishnessor laziness, but is a necessity in order to survive, in the last instance. And it is a sign of lived self-worth.
Where do your body or your circumstances show you that something is wrong?
I recommend that you pause for a moment now and feel inside yourself, asking yourself: Where is my body or my life circumstances showing me that something is not going as it should?
Be honest with yourself!
Is your body showing you symptoms that something is wrong? Are you tired? Are you in pain? Are you taking medication?Are you often in a bad mood or sad? These are all clues!
The best way to do something good for yourself isto eat well,rest, reflect on your values, i.e. what is important to you in life, and then align your life with these values. But the most important first step is to give yourself permission to take good care of yourself first, so that you have the strength, energy and desire to take good care of others or your work and career in the first place. care.
This is what I call living life from the inside out.
You can expect these results with more self-care
The consequences or results of self-care are wonderful, by the way. I'd like to list a few benefits orresultsfor you:
- Innerpeace
When you take good care of yourself, it becomes calm in yourself, because it grounds you and relaxes you when you know that your needs are being met. - Higher self-esteem
Self-care gives you the message that you are worth taking care of yourself. So it's a good way to increase your self-esteem. - Kindness
If you treat yourself well, you will radiate this. The people around you will reflect this back to you by being friendlier and more relaxed. - Leadership
It is very possible that others will recognize how well you treat yourself and begin to follow your example. - Fun
Taking good care of yourself is fun! Imagine taking a few minutesa few minutes to sniff an essential oil or run around outside with your dog. It's simply fun and puts you in a good mood! - Freedom:When you take good care of yourself, you'll find that it gives you the freedom to explore because you have the energy and health you need and aren't dragged down by things that aren'tgood for you.
- Generosity
Self-care is about filling your own resources first. When these are full, things are much easier.
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